Charming on the surface, controlling underneath — the kind of controlling that started as “caring.” Needed to know where Grace was, who she talked to, reframed her boundaries as her not trusting him. Doesn’t see himself as the problem; genuinely believes he was the reasonable one. Gets colder, not louder, when he doesn’t get his way — control through quiet disapproval rather than yelling.
Smooth, reasonable-sounding, good at making his version of events sound like the obvious one. Subtly minimizes — “I’m not saying it’s a big deal, I’m just saying…”
Wants Grace back, but specifically wants the version of the relationship where she needed managing — not actual reconciliation
People who don’t know the full story think he seems fine, maybe even like a good guy who got dumped for no reason. Grace knows better. The relationship still shows up in her need for control now — some of that isn’t just the OCD, some of it’s him.
